Brad's Blog

 

THERE IS PART OF MY LIFE THAT UP UNTIL NOW, I HAVE KEPT TO MYSELF.

We all have a story. All of us have things in our life that hold us back, things from our past that cause us pain and distract us from the day to day.

You guys know a lot about me but there is part of my life that up until now, I have kept to myself.

Every day there’d be something inside me that hurt. Each Christmas day I’d cry, and

 I’ve a son in Manchester that I’ve not seen in 13 years. Through no fault of his we’d lost contact.

Extreme circumstances got in the way back then.

The tears were for my loss, but also for my son (let’s call him ‘D’) who didn’t have his Dad there with him on each of those days to spoil him with toys, cuddles and selection boxes and just the ‘normal’ growing up stuff.

I knew that in business, in life (and I guess whilst driving) that constantly looking in the rear view mirror doesn’t help you to move forward. So I stowed all those feelings away. Only those closest to me were even aware of them.

A few weeks ago I had lunch with Shaa Wasmund a woman who’s a first class business woman with massive work ethics, in fact massive ethics. A boxing nut who used to be Chris Eubank’s Manager. I’m also a loony boxing fan so we clicked, waffling about boxing for first 35 minutes.

Over lunch we moved onto talking about motivation and how it’s all about seizing the moment. She shared with me the story of her partner, who was recently killed in a tragic car crash, one minute in her and four year old son’s life.

In the blink of an eye things had changed for her. Massively.

 I shared with Shaa my story of D. She said “can I ask you two questions?”.

“God forbid that something happened to D, and you never get chance to say the things you wanted to, how would you feel?”

Shit

“If you were D, what would you want your dad to do? “

Find me...

“There’s your answer”

In that minute the decision was made.  Thankyou Shaa - www.twitter.com/shaawasmund

So I put’s out a tweet to my followers for a Private Investigator and 4Networker Denise McCallum steps forward www.twitter.com/InvestigateUK  

Within minutes Denise tracked down D’s mum, address and contact numbers, and found her on Facebook. Then with the big FaceBook change over of a couple of weeks D’s Mum disappeared whilst Facebook sorted itself out.

I spent that time thinking about the approach that I should take in order to make it happen.  I thought -  you know what a Facebook message would allow it to be a clinical unemotional approach.

Then 2 days ago, I walks into the kitchen and my wife, who has wiped my tears and shared my anguish over the last 13 years says.. “Brad have you seen your facebook?” No why?

“D has added you as a friend”.. No f*king way. Shut the f**k up.. “seriously look.”

And sure enough that’s how it went down.

14 years in the making and D finds and makes contact with me within 2 weeks of me finding him. Sounds a bit “Cosmic ordery” and “law of attraction” (and to be honest, you couldn’t make it up, so maybe there’s something in it?).

This social media is more than “I’ve just walked the dog lol”.

It’s connecting people, connecting families.

If you have something in your life, someone in your life, you lost contact with, for whatever reason.

Make contact today, win, lose or draw, you will know.

D, I know you will read this, as I’m sending you this link.

I’m here to stay, to ensure all I make as much a positive impact on your life as you have mine.

Dad’s back in your life, as I always intended to be.

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Your Comments

Jen Said ...

Wow. What an emotional blog. And what an amazing story. I'm so pleased for you and D Brad.

And D if you are reading this, having your dad back in your life will have been well worth the wait. What a great guy he is.

Sending lots of love to you both. xx

Karen Said ...

damn you are good.

big love to you, Kerry and the boys, including D

Sean Said ...

First class read and well done to everyone involved.

Brad & D - enjoy every minute you have together, life is one big adventure, live it with the ones you love.

Vicky Said ...

I saw the twitter about this and that was moving in itself. Amazing story and I am really pleased for both you and your son.

Tom Said ...

I'm sat here with tears running down my cheeks. Fantastic Brad and D I hope you get to know your Dad and what a fantastic guy he is. He has made a huge difference to my life and I'm not even family. You have a great Dad.

Tamsen Said ...

I asked you the same questions about two years ago... but the answer was not clear to you then...

Goes to show that timing is everything... the timing is right.

The Law of Attraction rocks.

Very proud of you B x

Paul Said ...

If you can read this without that rush of emotion that makes you cry, you should check yourself out. Sad? Yup. But a happy ending. One of those endings that you just love to read. Brad - I am so pleased you found D. Really happy for you both.

People are everything, And the love that sits in the heart, giving power to just do the right thing, is that richest of human stuff.

High five Brad. I mean..proper, big time bloke hug.

Neil Said ...

hugs

Paul Said ...

Good lad Brad. Years of catching up and making up for you both to enjoy.

Gary Said ...

Brilliant story Brad. As a father of two I don't know what I'd do if I ever lost contact with my kids other than turn over every stone to find them like you have. Well done mate. Chuffed for you both.

Danny Said ...

D, I've known your dad a good few years now. Take it from me, he never forgot you.

Diane Said ...

What a truly amazing story. So happy you got to reconnect with D and yes, it truly does show that social networks do far more than just find us a few leads! Its great to know D got his dad back.

Elaine Said ...

OMG Brad, what a truely moving story, I am sat here with tears in my eyes. I hope you and 'D' get to know each other well and can't imagine how it feels to be reconnected after so long. Brad love and hugs to you and the family and I feel priviledged that you have been able to share this story with us.

Karen Said ...

everybody is mightly moved by this x

Sarah Said ...

Oh crap, everyone has gone soppy! Truth time. D, your dad is an opinionated, argumentative bugger! He'll drive you nuts and make you want to scream. He'll embarrass you and make you wish you were never born, let alone met him. But you know what...you'll be better off with him than without, no matter what. I mean that. No idea what your life is like now, so not being opinionated. But he's a top top guy with a heart of pizza. Whoops, I mean gold. Enjoy the arguments (I do!) . People come into your life for a reason, season or a lifetime. Enjoy whatever this will be and enjoy the ride!!!